How Losing My Identity Led Me to Find Myself

There are moments in life that divide your story into "before" and "after." May 2023 was mine.

I had just landed in Miami with my husband for what should have been a celebration of another successful year and our 15 year wedding anniversary. The email notification chimed on my phone as we entered the baggage claim quarterly rankings were in.

The Truth About Living a Life That Actually Lights You Up

Let’s have a real talk today.

Not the polished version.

Not the highlight reel.

Not the “just hustle harder” nonsense we’ve all grown tired of.

Let’s talk about building a life that actually lights you up from within.

If you've been feeling it lately—that quiet nudge inside, the knowing that something needs to change, I’m here to assure you that you are not alone.

And that whisper is getting louder, isn't it?

Here's the truth we've been conditioned to forget: It's not the big, bold leaps that change everything. It's the quiet micro-moves you make every single day.

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Ever have one of those days where something on the inside feels unmistakably wrong?

You tell yourself the usual lies. You're just tired. One more coffee will fix it. Just check one more box and that hollow feeling will vanish.

(It never does.)

You are not your résumé. You are not your LinkedIn headline. You are not your inbox, your to-do list, or your overflowing calendar. You are not what you do.

But chances are, the world taught you otherwise.

From childhood, we’re praised for performance. Gold stars. Straight A’s. MVP trophies. Somewhere along the line, “What do you do?” became shorthand for “Who are you?” And we believed it.

There comes a moment — often quietly, often inconveniently — when the question surfaces:

"Is this it?"

You’ve hit the milestones. Built the résumé. Achieved the success you once dreamed of. But instead of fulfillment, there’s a faint, persistent hollowness.

If you’ve felt this, you’re not broken.
You’re just misaligned.